Dear Courtney,
I’m sorry to read you’ve had such bad luck in the love department, particularly with the new fling.
Honestly I don’t know what to tell you. The beginning is such a tricky, delicate time. It’s like balancing a weight while walking on a tight rope, and I haven’t in the past been so great at doing it. I tend to be too into the relationship in the beginning, wanting to shower the guy with my affection, and sometimes it is too much. I think you’re a pretty affectionate girlfriend as well, but men are so hard to figure out, and sometimes this is a problem. Men like their freedom and like the pursuit. Although it doens’t even sound like the typical situation here, it sound like you caught him in a wee lie. That I totally don’t understand. Why would he lie about this spur of the moment trip when it would probably have been fine with you anyways. Why would he tell other people, including people you know, when it might get back to you. In my experience, starting out with lies, even minor little ones such as this tends to be a bad sign. Even if you think your guy is honest with you, but he tells white lies to others, I tend to be concerned. It is all in how easy the lies roll of a persons tongue.
It seems as though you’re moving past this fling, but that you knew from the beginning “too much enthusiasm? too fast?” Always stick with you’re gut. You know what is up. I’m always hesitant to do what I feel in my gut as it comes up, but I always look back and tsk tsk myself for not trusting my instincts. They are always right!
I’m doing well with V, no complaints what so ever. Of course it might be because he lives an hour away and the time we have together is precious. My father is coming to visit me for a week, and V asked me to meet him. I agreed, but I’m a bit nervous. Not because I don’t think my dad will like V, he’ll love him, they are peas in a pod, but because I’ve actually never introduced a boyfriend to my parents before. This is only out of proximity constraints, but still. My dad is the type of guy who likes everyone, so I’m sure it will go well, I’m still nervous. I’m also nervous because we’ve only been together for a short while. I don’t want to get too serious too fast; this has bit me in the a$$ before. That being said, I really have to admit I haven’t felt this strongly about anyone before. It’s scary, and I ended up telling V. And he agreed. So at least we are both on the same page, and he still wants to meet my Dad.
We’ll see!
xoxo, miss you
Nicki
