Court!
I’m so sorry I didn’t respond to the last post. In fact I had started a draft in the airport, but then thought I posted it… and evidently had not.
Ego is a powerful part of relationships, unfortunately. With this guy who’s now texting again, the thing is: he is texting you. Not calling or showing up to places he knows you’ll be. He’s only putting in the minimal effort to see you. Maybe because he is lonely, maybe because he isn’t sure, maybe because he wants sex. What ever the reason he should figure it out and then come at you with the right approach. He knows as well as you do things were fading, but if he’s convinced he wants to give it a try with you he will put in the effort and right now he is just now.
With the fling, it seems like you were just using him to get over the last guy. Ego – we’re all guilty of it. I think you should focus on starting something new with this guy and try and put the other one out of your mind. Or if you, if you move one, maybe try not to get too quickly into a full force relationship, like the one you had with the last Mr. Unavailable until you are sure he’s serious.
As for me, I’m just starting with someone. He used to work where I work now, so we know a bunch of people in common. I was traveling for work, and my co-workers and I were out at a bar, and he showed up to meet up with them as well. We ended up talking most of the night in the corner of the bar and it pretty much clicked. The next night again my co-workers went out for dinner and he asked me to sit next to him. It was a bit awkward, because it was clear to our co-workers that we had hit it off, and people had asked me about during the day, giving me a bit of a hard time. I don’t like people at work being in my personal life. In anycase we exchanged numbers and he called when I got home from the conference. We talked on the phone a few times and agreed to meet up, and we just spent the day together last weekend. It was really organic. I feel really comfortable around him, he is very low key. He called me after I got home and we chatted that night, and we made plans to meet up next weekend.He is really sweet, no games.
He calls and makes plans. So it seems good but too early to really tell. The good news: he has NO ex-drama. I asked 
He does seem to be a bit of a workaholic though…
I really miss you though!
Wish we could chat over a glass of wine by the sea. . . someday my dear.
xo
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