Dear Nicki,
I am perplexed. Things were going pretty well with the guy that I am dating, but two weeks ago I got the impression that our feelings started to fade out… I didn’t feel the need to be all around him every single moment and started planning my own things. I still really liked him though. I got the feeling that he was on the same page. I started wondering whether what I felt for him was real love or was it simply an enthusiasm that lasted a mere two months?
So I decided to do an experiment. We went to the movies last Friday. I drove him home, we kissed goodnight and I left. Then I did not call for 4 days. Neither did he. I missed him. I felt in love with him. I cried every night thinking about him and wished we were together. I was now sure about my feelings. But his? After 4 days I called and we went out. He didn’t miss me. He would have never called if I didn’t call him. It was clear that from his part it was an enthusiasm that faded out.
I was really sorry but I have learnt my lesson on how to avoid the Mr. Unavailables on this earth. As soon as I got the jist that he was about to vaporize, I decided to move on.
The next day I went out with some people I know for quite some time. There’s this one guy that I ‘ve always wanted to ask out -he’s gorgeous. Not sure what kind of vibes I was giving off that particular night, but we ended up making out. He asked for my number and called the next day. We went out again and again. Yesterday he asked me if I ‘d like to travel to Spain with him for a few days. He went on and on about how many things we have in common and what an amazing time we would have. I am so damn confused. Yes to moving on, but moving on so fast?
Needless to say, I still think about the other guy, but I know it’s hopeless. It can only go down from here. I already know the drill. He’s going to avoid seeing me, stop answering my calls or send me sweet texts… Or maybe not? I haven’t officially broken it off with him and haven’t told him about the other guy, but we met this afternoon and acted like we’re just friends.
Is it possible to bring back the enthusiasm once it’s faded out? Or does it simply mean that love was never there in the first place and one should move on as fast as possible?
Help!
Love you & miss you!
Courtney
