Sex my ex

Dear Nicki,

Six months ago, I dated this guy that was almost perfect: good job, smart, cute, and insanely rich. It was going well for a month and as I started to fall in love he broke up. As you know, I was very upset. Fortunately, it had been a short time that we were dating and after two weeks I managed to almost get over it.

As I was getting back to my old routine, the ex started texting me. Late nights. For hours. And with a sex content. I started getting into the game and soon we were texting every night until 4am. I told him that I was not interested in him any more and he should find somebody else. After a month, my defense weakened. I gave in. It was amazing.

Of course after that happened he wanted more of the sex without the commitment and I wanted less sex and more commitment. Sounds familiar? I think it is a particularly painful experience when your ex breaks up and wants you to be f*** buddies. Initially, I thought, great, if he wants to use me, I am going to use him, too! Well, I can only assure you of one thing: Getting sex from your ex while looking for the new one . . . great for guys, very painful for gals. I keep telling myself: “Do not fall in this trap no matter how much you are in love.”

Needless to say, the same guy is texting me over and over again and I try to be strong and not give in. What do you think Nicki? Why does he keep  on texting? Is he really only interested in getting physical? It’s difficult to know that somebody would rather only have you in bed and would not want to hang out with you.

And why do I keep falling in that trap over and over? I guess I was hoping that after some time he would get closer and I might get him back. I guess it won’t happen! Should I give him an ultimatum? If he takes it and leaves, it means that he was never really there for me.

Love,

Courtney

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